How Much of You Is Available for Your Life?

Julie Holly: Welcome back, or welcome to The Recalibration, where high-capacity humans realign who they are so they can shift from pressure and performance into peace, presence, and clarity without losing their edge. I'm Julie Holly, researcher, coach, and founder of The Identity Level Recalibration Pathway. I'm so excited about today's topic. We're gonna dive into this concept of capacity, because I talk about it all the time. I use the word high-capacity humans on a regular basis, and I actually think that we need to clarify and really understand what does high-capacity human really mean?

Julie Holly: And in the process of talking about high-capacity humans, let's talk about you for a little bit, right? I'm gonna weave in some great questions that will help you reflect on your own life as we're going through this conversation. Because, you can ask my husband, I can monologue very well, and I'm sure that my teens would agree with that. But I want this to be a conversation, and I know that you're listening to me. But I feel, and I'm like looking into a camera right now, because I feel like we're having an actual conversation. So that also means, hey, reach out to me and let me know what's going on in life. Let's have a conversation so that this isn't a one-sided conversation.

Julie Holly: So tag your it after this episode to schedule a time for you and I to connect up and talk. It'll be so much fun. So how much of you is available for your life? Because the truth is, is that we can accomplish a great deal and still feel like we don't have anything left. I bet if you looked at your calendar and you looked at the week, you looked at the day, it'd be like, "Wow, this day is already full." And then in addition to all of the tasks and the shuttling around and the responsibilities, we're also carrying around things like worry or second-guessing ourselves or trying to keep people happy, trying to meet the needs of the people around us.

Julie Holly: And then when something unexpected happens, even something really small, in fact, it's usually the things that are the smallest that just make everything feel like it's too much If that's resonating, if that's landing, I just want you to know you're not alone. You are so not alone that was my life for almost five solid decades right there in a nutshell, And really I didn't start learning about margin, spaciousness, and the gift of limitations, like that's just within the last couple of years that I've been onboarding that into my life. So if this is something that feels like a foreign land, like oh my gosh, like you just described my life. My schedule is full on the calendar with responsibilities and my internal space is full and occupied and congested with all of these feelings that I am experiencing, I just want you to know you are not alone. And so when I say high capacity humans you might think lots of things in your head.

Julie Holly: You might be thinking, "Yeah, Neda Jules, I am so high capacity. Do you not see the load I carry internally, externally - in every which way?" Um, you might think when I say high capacity that that's not you. You might feel like well I don't feel like I'm carrying very much or I, maybe I don't feel like I'm carrying it well, and so you think, "She's not talking about me because she's talking about high capacity and I don't resonate with that." And so I wanna take a moment to talk about what I actually mean when I say high capacity. So I actually have a very formal definition. I might someday release these videos.

Julie Holly: I do video record these, but um, I'm holding up my paper, my notes, and I'm holding up my definition so that I can be very spot on and clear. And that's just more for fun. So high capacity is the freedom to direct your energy towards what matters rather than having it consumed by what no longer serves you. A high capacity human is someone who stewards their available capacity with intention, recognizing what occupies them and reclaiming space for what matters I left that pause there because that's like, that's a lot of words. And like I said, that's a definition.

Julie Holly: You know? Sometimes I joke with myself as I'm doing stuff, I'm like, "Okay, are you doing this for like a psych book and some type of, publication that wants something really formal? Or are you talking to your awesome high capacity humans?" So not that you can't like, not that you can't understand that, but you know what I mean? When we're listening to podcasts, we're not looking for something that's gonna make our brain sweat too much. So let's just talk about this in a less formal way.

Julie Holly: And I have this idea, I have a few analogies. All of my coaching clients, they know I have a plethora of analogies that come up. And in a coaching session recently, one of my clients asked, me very specifically, he's like, "Oh, okay, well, I'm gonna increase my capacity and I'm gonna, I'm gonna make it bigger." And that sounds great. I know as you hear that you're like, "Yeah, that's so rad. Like go for it, my guy, like increase your capacity." Um, and what he was actually saying was, "If my container was an eight ounce container, I'm going to increase my capacity so that I grow into a 36 ounce container." That's what he was thinking, when he was talking about growing and expanding his capacity. And I gently pulled back because generally, we'll talk about this in just a little bit, but generally I work with people who are very successful, who are high performers, who are high achievers.

Julie Holly: And so that sounds like a really fun and inviting and exciting thing to do. So I pulled back and I said, "Well, actually, let's talk about capacity in a different way. Let's just imagine that you are a 12 ounce container. That is all you can hold. And so if we're thinking about that container, we have to think about the percentage breakdown, right? We have to think about what is actually occupying that container.

Julie Holly: So daily life, that's gonna occupy something, you are sleeping, you are eating some meal. Even if you're just grabbing a protein bar, you're taking the time to grab a protein bar. You're t- you're doing something like that, right? So daily life, let's just say, is gonna take up 60% of your capacity. There we go.

Julie Holly: What do you do with the remaining 40% of your capacity?" For most of us, we end up layering and piling on all sorts of other things, and they're things that we can name. We oftentimes will overcommit ourselves. We don't know how to say no, but we know how to say yes really well. We forgot that no is the same thing as yes. It's just a different version of yes, right?

Julie Holly: I've talked about that many times on the podcast. Um, lots of fun with yes and no, but a lot of times we overcommit ourselves, even to our family. We might tell someone we care about in our family that, you know, "Yeah, I will make sure that we, we get more, um, salami so that you can make your sandwiches. You know? Yeah, I'm gonna make sure." And so we start taking up mental bandwidth there, and then we have some emotional costs that we start bringing into our lives. For a lot of people, anxiety or maybe depression is gonna occupy 10, 15% of that 40% that is remaining.

Julie Holly: So that's just got, like, squished down. I'm gonna make this easy for myself and say if anxiety was 10%. So now you've gone from 60% already used for just daily life activities, another 10% for anxiety, depression. And then I don't know about you, but a lot of people I come across, and I used to be in this boat, you might be monitoring how you come across to other people, right? All of that self-regulating, monitoring.

Julie Holly: You know, what did they... I wonder if they understood that. Maybe I should send a text and just make sure that they, they understood I, I didn't mean it that way, I meant it this way because if they interpreted it that way, that might be hurtful to them And so we get in our head about things, right? And so we monitor how we're coming across to people. Let's just say that's another 10%.

Julie Holly: So we've used, what, 80% right there? So we've got another 20%. Where does that leftover 20%, what does that leave us? that's not very much to deal with change in plans. Um, how about a really meaningful conversation? I'm thinking about a friend, I was walking with the other day, and her daughter was in a car accident.

Julie Holly: Thank God nobody was injured, but that shakes up a new driver, right? And, you know, mom had to go on scene and, you know, check in and make sure her daughter's okay and everything. I mean, do you have capacity to navigate the unexpected that comes up in life? I know I was driving my daughter home just last night, and I had picked her up from her, church group, and we, were driving home. We got into a really cool conversation, and we sat outside our house and we spoke for a little bit longer.

Julie Holly: I had capacity for that conversation. So we have to think, like, what is occupying the capacity that we have? Because we don't get to expand it. We don't get to go from 8 ounce to 36 ounce or from a 12-ounce container into some other - you know, like 48-ounce container. That's, that's just not how it works.

Julie Holly: We have a capacity and we have to operate within our capacity. So if we're thinking about, and I'm kinda jumping around. I'm gonna get some other cool concepts about capacity. I jumped ahead in, my notes of what I was doing. So as we are looking at what is occupying our capacity, we wanna explore the demands that don't actually appear on the calendar. Those are the easy ones, right?

Julie Holly: And this is very similar if we wanna think about how we're looking at our finances. You know, like, if you're looking through your finances, you, you have that moment where you start looking through and you're like, what is going on?" And then you realize there's, like, three different subscriptions flying under the radar, right? So something might not appear in plain sight, and we wanna be aware of that because lots of things occupy our capacity. Some of these things, you might be rehearsing a conversation. You might be trying to prevent someone's disappointment. Maybe you're trying to keep yourself impressive or indispensable because let's face it, the last few years there have been a lot of layoffs.

Julie Holly: There's a lot of change, lots of things, and so it's like, "I'm gonna be hypervigilant. I'm gonna make sure that, that I'm in good favor with everyone." Maybe you're carrying an unresolved decision. In your heart you know it's a, it's a no, which is actually a yes, and yet you're not executing on that, and so you're just carrying it aw- around. It's occupying like 3% of your capacity, just idling in there, holding it in there. You might be staying in a role that no longer fits.

Julie Holly: I can just tell you from all the clients that I have worked with over the years, if you are staying in a role that you no longer fit and you're trying to fit in that role- and you don't have a runway, an exit strategy in place, that is gonna occupy a tremendous amount of your capacity You might have stories in your head that I have to earn rest. And so even that just prevents you from being able to go from an activated state Into a state of rest. So the invitation for you is this. Just park with this question for a little bit and you might wanna hit pause 'cause I have a couple other areas that I wanna explore with you and you might wanna just sit with this question for a moment. What is consuming me that I've stopped noticing?

Julie Holly: One of the things that we noticed, that we discovered, is I had a l- tremendous amount of my capacity being expended on logistics. And if you have teens, if you have kids, and you are getting people around, there is a lot of - logistical things taking place. the location, the time, all of it has to be orchestrated really well because we don't wanna be the people that have kids that have the stories of like, you know, "Mom left me at school. My mom, mom left me, you know, at practice and totally forgot about me." Um, and so it was interesting because the therapist that I work with, I'm doing a very special project, I think I shared about that recently. I need to do a whole episode on it soon. But in our conversations she helped me see all of the energy that I was expending on the logistics. We actually ended up getting a third vehicle because that helped clear the logistics.

Julie Holly: I did not know the burden that I was carrying. I did not know how much of my capacity was being, occupied by the logistics in our family until we got that third vehicle and then it was like everything just started to diffuse. So a lot of times we adapt, we create accommodations for all sorts of things in our lives, and we don't even think twice about it. And so when I ask you what's consuming you that you've stopped noticing, it means what are some things that you've just made some creative adaptations for? You can accommodate it.

Julie Holly: It's really not that big of a deal. I mean, we can do it. It's fine. But it's actually taking a toll and it's occupying your capacity. Okay, I wanna go back because, I was talking about the definition of high capacity And then I prematurely jumped into what occupies us.

Julie Holly: One of the things that I absolutely love about high capacity humans is that There is equality in it. Every single one of us has capacity. And honestly, in my mind, I kinda think of it like, hey, wow, we're all 12 ounce jars, and we all have capacity. And that means that it's not reserved. It's not something so special.

Julie Holly: You know, you have to be an - Olympian to have high capacity, or you have to have certain degrees, credentials, and affiliations in order to be a high capacity human. Or you have to have a certain income to be a high capacity human. The cool thing is, is that there is equality in high capacity. And the truth is, is that we do all have different circumstances and we have different amounts that are available to us at different points. But we're not competing over whose capacity is the greatest capacity. high capacity means that we have the space, we have the margin, we have the ability to actually be present in our lives.

Julie Holly: So I'm glad I jumped ahead because now we can go back to the percentages, right? If, if 80, 90% of my capacity is already occupied with simple daily life anxiety and overthinking different things, what is my capacity for being present in these other moments? Taking this a little bit different direction, that's really important because sometimes when I've used high capacity, people hear that as if I'm saying, "Oh, that's a new way of talking about high performers," or, "That's a new way of talking about high achievers," and it's not. So let's just clarify all these terms and make it very crystal clear. high performance concerns how well you execute. High achievement concerns what you accomplish.

Julie Holly: High capacity, as I'm defining it, concerns how much of yourself is actually available and how intentionally you use it. Now, all of those things can overlap, and that's why a lot of times in the intro I will say hallelujah, I'm so glad that identity-level recalibration doesn't mean tamping down our ambition and our pursuit of excellence. The truth is, is that we can perform well, we can achieve a lot, and still have room to enjoy and be present in our lives. Imagine that. You can perform well, you can achieve a ton, and you can still have room to enjoy your life.

Julie Holly: The opposite is also true. You can perform well and achieve a lot while feeling completely consumed. Someone whose life looks ordinary from the outside can have meaningful freedom to direct their energy towards what matters. This is an opportunity for you to just reflect for a moment and ask yourself, "Have I been using my accomplishments as evidence that I'm doing okay?" A lot of times we want to point to the thing and be like, "See? I'm okay.

Julie Holly: I, I just got this award. I just closed that deal. I just spoke on that stage. I just spent the entire day with my family. I just went on vacation." We wanna point to the thing instead of actually saying, "Wait, have I been using all of those things as evidence that I'm, doing okay?

Julie Holly: Or am I trying to fit an extra 10 ounces into my 12-ounce container?" A lot of times that's what we're trying to do. We're trying to just stuff so much more in there. Which leads into the next concept, which is capability and capacity. So capability asks this question. It says, "Do I have the skills, the knowledge, the resources, or the support to do this?" Capacity, on the other hand, asks, "Do I have enough room to engage with this right now?" And we know from experience that capability can be a real limitation.

Julie Holly: Maybe we need training, maybe we need some practice, some expertise, or some help in order to be able to accomplish the thing. The reality is, is that that degree, it can build your knowledge. Connections, they can open doors. Experience can make a task easier. But here's the bottom line.

Julie Holly: None of those automatically frees us from self-consciousness, the need to prove ourselves, or feeling responsible for everyone's experience, or fill in the other five things that are more personal to you In reality, we can be capable of doing something and have no room to take it on. I can think about several times in my life where I had the, the capability of executing on something. I did not have the capacity to do that. the three months following my dad's sudden death, I was still capable of doing things. I did not have capacity to do anything. You might think about some other times in your life where, yeah, that would be easy.

Julie Holly: You could do it, but you don't have the bandwidth. That's another way we can think about capacity, right, is bandwidth. I think about what my life is like now and how I'm very mindful about what I'm committing to. In fact, right now I have a lot of really fun opportunities, and in my mind, I am asking myself the question of what is my capacity? I know I could be an asset to these different groups, to these different organizations and such, and yet what is my capacity?

Julie Holly: And so I'm using a lot of discernment to ensure that I am creating margin into my life. A little forced limitation to say, "No, I, I need a rainy day fund," in a sense, for my capacity. And actually, I don't like that analogy - so much because then that's treating margin as a luxury item, and it really isn't a luxury item. capacity and knowing that I'm not at max capacity, that just allows like the mind, the nervous system to just settle, to relax, and that's where a lot of presence comes from. The truth is a cleared calendar can help, but if we still feel responsible for everything, we can remain occupied even when nothing is scheduled This is deeply personal because I have learned over the last couple of months that I very much struggle with the weekends. I know that sounds so crazy.

Julie Holly: Like, I'm not even kidding you, I love Mondays. I love stepping into the rhythm of the week. I love the predictability of it. I like the guardrails. I love the work I do, the clients I get to meet with.

Julie Holly: I love Monday through Friday so much because my calendar is just guiding me along. It's so fun, and it's exciting, and it's rewarding, And then Saturday hits, and it's this unstructured time. And so this is where when I say I, I live recalibration, this is me being very deeply honest with you. I just said to you, we can remain occupied even when nothing is scheduled, and I can find myself very easily on a Saturday feeling restless, feeling anxious, feeling uncertain, just having a hard time, like, just settling in and relaxing, and it's something I am very intentionally recalibrating, you know? Recalibration begins with recognition.

Julie Holly: It begins with being aware. And so this is me. I'm aware. I am noticing what's occupying me and what it means to me. And so I'm wondering, as we're having this conversation, what are you noticing is occupying you, and what does that mean to you?

Julie Holly: What I'm working with in my recalibration process with my, attitude and relationship with Saturdays in particular. Sundays are a little bit better because... I go to church on Sunday mornings, and there's a little bit of a rhythm there that's really, really inviting, but Saturdays are a day that's, like, off the rails. Like, what's going on? And so it just by nature of being able to recognize that, and you can even hear I'm light-hearted about it.

Julie Holly: Recognition, that awareness, there isn't any shame. There isn't criticism or condemnation. It's like, it is. It just is what it is. And if we can simply not assign feelings to what is but just simply recognize, "Okay, that's what's going on.

Julie Holly: That's really interesting." And then we can step into the second part of the pathway, which is release, which means what is not serving me? I can release the things that are not serving me well, and in this case, if I'm on edge on a Saturday and my family is trying to relax or trying to have a good time, can you only imagine? Okay, but you might actually be resonating and you might be like, "Oh my gosh, I'm the person on Saturday in my family." So if you are, we should talk. We can recalibrate that part of our lives together. When we're aware of what is, then we can choose to release what's no longer serving us. By the way, I will say I stepped into the third part, which is reclamation, this past weekend, and reclamation is saying, " I'm gonna claim this territory.

Julie Holly: I'm gonna reclaim it maybe." Sometimes we have to do something again and again. maybe you wanna reconnect with what matters and what you've lost touch with. So last Saturday I went in... This is, you know, a couple of months of reinforcing the recalibration in this part of my life, and that is, you know, reinforcement is simply just practicing the thing. You know, showing up to that relationship with myself in just these small everyday choices. And so last Saturday had a phenomenal Saturday.

Julie Holly: It was so much fun And it was because I went into that Saturday, I was aware, it's Saturday. Okay, how does Saturday usually feel? What do I want to release from this? Okay, well, normally I feel uncertain about what the day's going to do and where it's going to lead, and I like structure so much, it keeps me safe. Oh, by the way, there's a lot of work to do there.

Julie Holly: Um, so I'm saying that because if you're hearing that and you're resonating, there's so much more going on underneath that. and so then we can say, "Okay, I'm going to release my need to have a clear expectation for today. I am going to choose to reclaim that Saturday can be a day where there is no schedule, and that that is actually beautiful for other people in my family, and they love it. And this can be a day..." I reclaimed that this could be whimsy, it could be surprise, it could be delight, it can be I don't even know what's going to come. And so I was able to recalibrate, right? Able to shift from the uncertainty and the fear and the worry and the anxiety over I don't know what today's going to bring into wow, I don't know what today's gonna bring, and that's pretty exciting.

Julie Holly: I'm up for that adventure. And that's a, that's a shift. That's a recalibration. and so just to wrap up the recalibration pathway, right? From, recognition, release, reclamation, what I've been doing the last couple of months is reinforcement. I am I'm just practicing this, and when I have a Saturday and, I fumble it, it's like, okay.

Julie Holly: All right. No, we're just gonna... We're gonna be aware. Next, next Saturday, we're gonna be aware. It's okay.

Julie Holly: No shame, no criticism, no judgment, no condemnation. and going through the recalibration pathway on my Saturdays as I'm a living example for my Saturdays, right? is that I'm gonna gain renewed momentum. That's going to be an innocent byproduct. This is just going to be an integrated part of my life, and Saturdays are going to be this really fun, exciting day in my life and for my family. That's pretty rad. I'm excited about that.

Julie Holly: So just giving yourself the opportunity to just simply say, "I don't have to have it all figured out, but I do need a way to work through and to process through the different things that I am experiencing in my life." All of this is identity level work because we're asking ourselves the deeper questions about ourselves. we're asking questions like, what does being dependable actually require of me? Who am I if I'm not the one holding everything together? What do I believe will happen if someone is disappointed in me? What am I asking my work or achievement to prove? And yeah, I'll fill in, fill in the question for my Saturdays.

Julie Holly: What do I need? Why? Why do I need safety and security in a schedule and routine? Why do I need predictability to keep me safe? I've been doing that work and teasing it apart and it's, it's interesting.

Julie Holly: I actually find a lot of... I find it exciting. I find it very playful, and it's interesting because my daughter was actually asking me recently, she's like, " Don't you just get frustrated with yourself?" She's having a moment where she was frustrated with something that was taking place in her life, that she was doing and, and I said, " Well, what's, what's the use in that?" And she's like, "Well, shouldn't..." And she couldn't really articulate it because we all know it doesn't make sense. Like beating myself up is not gonna do anyone any service, right? And so when we can step into the world of this is, this is part of me, what a gift that I can see this, that I can recognize this. that means I have the opportunity to recalibrate this part of my life.

Julie Holly: That is so exciting, and for my friends who share faith, like, wow, like, God is at work in our lives. It's so fun, so exciting. All right. We're gonna wrap this up, but I don't wanna wrap it up without thinking about something also fun, and that is a question of what do we do with our reclaimed capacity? This is where I've been living, and I'm gonna be reclaiming even more capacity in my life.

Julie Holly: The reality is, is that a lot of times we're tempted to fill any extra space in our lives immediately. So maybe it's like, "Oh, whoa, I'm not anxious and worried about my teenage drivers on the road anymore. But now I'm anxious and worried about my grandkids and what's the world's gonna be like for them." Right? A lot of times we end up just transferring whatever was occupying the space to something else. And so we wanna be aware of that because that availability can become something different.

Julie Holly: That availability can become presence. It can become play, creativity. Oh, my word, dare I say a four-letter word right now? It could become rest. The R-word that so many people are disconnected from.

Julie Holly: Maybe you actually will have capacity and space to respond in a different way. That extra capacity can also support really meaningful work, and we get to choose. We get to choose what our capacity is being allocated towards So take a moment and ask yourself this question: If I had more of myself available, would I let myself enjoy the space? Yep. I know.

Julie Holly: I just felt it. I, I mean, I do this work. I live and breathe this work, and I... This is something where I see it all the time. It's like, wait, I can actually enjoy the space, and I didn't have to earn it?

Julie Holly: I didn't have to prove something to get it? So I just wa- I want you to just think about that. Like, would I let myself enjoy the space Okay. as we're wrapping up, I wanna give a little asterisk on this. And this is gonna sound like it's, you know, just me helping myself out, but here's the asterisk. The asterisk is that there is a difference between a sprint and a pattern.

Julie Holly: There are legitimate times in our lives where we need to be more focused. We need to... Our capacity is going to be maxed out, like pushing the lid off the jar type maxed out, as much as we can do to, to push a project across the edge, there are times where that is true. So there's a difference between the sprint and the pattern. for example, right now I'm in the process of, doing a website build for the recalibration, and I've done this with other projects in the past, and I know such familiar territory from building other businesses that I'm just like, "Okay, I know that when you're building out a website," you could be building it out yourself. You could be having someone else build it.

Julie Holly: I've done both. And no matter what, it requires a high level of presence, a high level of attention. It takes a lot of capacity And that for me is going to be a sprint. Okay? So we have times in our lives where we're gonna do some sprints where life is going to be different.

Julie Holly: It might be different for a couple of weeks, maybe it's different for six months, But it's different and there is a, a pretty clear timeline as to what that looks like. If you're living in community, if you have a family, if you have people that you are living with that y'all care about each other, you want everyone to know, like, "Hey, I know that I'm gonna be really focused on this big project. you know what? We have this huge fundraiser coming up for our nonprofit. I know that my capacity is going to really be like full attention, all capacity is going to be there, and it's gonna be like that for the next three weeks, and I just wanna give everyone's a heads, heads up." Okay, so what we're doing there is we're just letting, letting everyone know like, " I'm not gonna have the capacity to absorb like some of the bumps that are taking place in normal life. Can you help me out?" and this isn't permanent, okay?

Julie Holly: Because there's a difference between a sprint and a pattern So one of the questions that you can ask that really helps clarify, am I in a sprint or am I in a pattern? You could be asking, is this a season that I am choosing or an exception that I'm renewing? So I'm choosing a season right now of building on this website. You might be choosing a season to help with a fundraiser. So, you know, just being clear, is this a season I'm choosing or an expectation that I'm renewing?

Julie Holly: There is a difference between the two There are real demands that do still exist, and there are times where some responsibilities can't simply be let down. There are times where we are being caregivers. There are times where we're dealing with sickness. I'm thinking about a friend of mine whose mom is navigating cancer. There are times where work is more intense.

Julie Holly: I'm thinking about friends that are affected in the tech space, in the hospitality space, in different industries. There are times where there are Financial realities affect what is available to us. Inflation is real. You might find that you're working your normal job, and you're picking up a side hustle because inflation is real, and you need that extra income at this time. So I just...

Julie Holly: I wanna honor that there are real demands. And so when we think about capacity, it's not all like sunshine and roses, like, "What's wrong with you?" 'Cause you, you know, don't have 40% capacity available to you. It's just saying, like, it's a way of being mindful, of being present with how we are living and allocating our lives and the energy in our lives. We wanna be honest about that. The truth is, is that we believe that so much of our capacity is occupied by our circumstances when, in reality, so much of our capacity is occupied by the stories we tell ourselves, by a lot of tangled webs inside us, feelings that we carry around, grief we haven't named that we've just been hauling around for the last seven years.

Julie Holly: You might be hauling around grief from the pandemic in 2020. we can inadvertently be hauling around so much that when we name it and when we release it, we reclaim that capacity in our lives, and it is powerful. And because we have that capacity renewed in our lives, the circumstances feel a lot lighter because we're not fragmented I wanna leave you with three questions. I'll make sure that these are in the show notes so that you can reflect on them, you can go back to them. And by the way, plug, you can go. I don't know that I actually recommend it right now, okay? but I'm okay saying this. You can go to julieholley.com. the website is live.

Julie Holly: It is not a finished website right now. I'm doing a lot of play. I'm exploring with this website and, um, I work with a lot of entrepreneurs, and this is kind of a sandbox area for me. So it's, also play and joy, and it also helps me understand a lot of the clients that I work with and what they navigate. but you can go to the website, and if you go click on the podcast, you will actually be able to see the podcast episode there. And there are questions that you can actually fill in.

Julie Holly: I'm not capturing any information from you whatsoever. It's just these questions you can answer them, and then you can copy and paste them wherever you want them to reflect on later. There's just a lot of interactiveness that I'm building into this website because there are tools that are now available to do these fun things that I've dreamt of, and I'm playing and having so much fun. So I wanna encourage you, if you're enjoying the podcast and you're hearing these questions and you wanna take these type of questions further, go to julieholley.com. I think it's backslash podcast, but I'm not certain.

Julie Holly: But it'll, it'll be a tool a little button on the navigation. Click on it, and you'll see all sorts of resources for this episode. You might wait till Thursday. I know this episode's coming out on Wednesday. it might not actually show up until Thursday, so just a heads-up. Okay, three questions without any more delay.

Julie Holly: Question one: What is occupying more of me than I want it to? Question two: what do I believe it would mean about me to loosen my grip on it? And question three, what would I love to have more of myself available for? I just want to reassure you, remember, this isn't something to solve. This isn't like, okay, like chop, chop, get to it and fix it, 'cause you're not something to be fixed.

Julie Holly: This is just something to just, okay, what do I recognize? That's where we begin. We begin with recognition. We begin with allowing ourselves to engage ourselves without shame, judgment, criticism, condemnation, all of the things, And that's the work I love doing with clients one-on-one and, something that we're now doing in the community. So if that's something that you're interested in learning more about, working one-on-one, schedule a recalibration conversation with me.

Julie Holly: It is Based on feedback from people who are on recalibration conversations with me, I'm confident that you won't feel like you're being sold to. I'm also confident that you're gonna feel very deeply seen, and very deeply served. And whether or not that means we work together, if it's a right fit or not the right time or any of that, I'm confident that that conversation is going to be very helpful for whatever you're navigating in life. So pick a time on my calendar. I would love to be able to talk with you and give you space to begin that recalibration experience.

Julie Holly: There's a link in the show notes. It may say insight and alignment call. It may say recalibration conversation. Everything is in flux just a little bit at this time. So I look forward to talking with you. Remember, friend, this is a daily journey, and you're exactly, exactly where you need to be today.